Submitted by paul (not verified) on Wed, 19/09/2007 - 10:13pm.
Hi Peter. I appreciate your comments.
If my inner thoughts make people think and create a reaction, that in my opinion is a positive thing. Whether individuals like it or not, there are lots of guys like me out there. A minority yes but loving committed dads just the same. And that is my only axe to grind. I will of course base my thoughts on my own personal experiences. I am not going to base them on anyone else’s now am I?
I generally believe that a collective is that, a collective. Not an edited sanitized version of someone's interpretation of what is deemed acceptable. I have a right to my opinions. My gay male friends include a marksman in MI5, a soldier, a builder and many others over the years that can crack bones by staring at them. I am an avid climber, I go green laneing in the best boys toy you can have, a brand spanking new, 4x4 Land Rover Defender in my spare time. I am more masculine than many of my hetero friends. I have a mix of people from all backgrounds in my life, and I have learnt a lot from this. It is interesting to see that you feel your opinion is deemed more valid than mine, just because you are straight. To quote “Thought this was about being a dad and better fathering ideas...? Not sexual inclination... save it for other web sites thx!”
I don’t recall going into any detail about my sex life, and that was exactly my point. My stance is that of a man who is a dad and who happens to be gay, and finding that people are more interested in my sexuality, than my talents as a father. This is born of ignorance and that was my point.
My thoughts were about encouraging open honest communication with our children, In order to do this we sometimes have to face our own demons and grow as an individual; easier said than done I know.
I don’t have an axe to grind fella. I am most defiantly more together and happier than the majority of people I meet. Two vital components in being a successful parent.
Life experience varies little from person to person. The journey may have a different view, but we all feel the same in our hearts and heads. It is only ever a matter of degree.
I'll keep my postings "reasonably" palatable!
My final word on the subject (I promise and then I'll get off my soap box) is that Em, my daughter has the final say and we have a fantastic relationship that other "straight" dads who have had to dad remotely, would look on and envy, given the same set of circumstances. I have a lot to offer anyone open enough to hear me based on being a dad of 20 years.
Be happy mate!
Paul
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Hi Peter. I appreciate your
Hi Peter. I appreciate your comments.
If my inner thoughts make people think and create a reaction, that in my opinion is a positive thing. Whether individuals like it or not, there are lots of guys like me out there. A minority yes but loving committed dads just the same. And that is my only axe to grind. I will of course base my thoughts on my own personal experiences. I am not going to base them on anyone else’s now am I?
I generally believe that a collective is that, a collective. Not an edited sanitized version of someone's interpretation of what is deemed acceptable. I have a right to my opinions. My gay male friends include a marksman in MI5, a soldier, a builder and many others over the years that can crack bones by staring at them. I am an avid climber, I go green laneing in the best boys toy you can have, a brand spanking new, 4x4 Land Rover Defender in my spare time. I am more masculine than many of my hetero friends. I have a mix of people from all backgrounds in my life, and I have learnt a lot from this. It is interesting to see that you feel your opinion is deemed more valid than mine, just because you are straight. To quote “Thought this was about being a dad and better fathering ideas...? Not sexual inclination... save it for other web sites thx!”
I don’t recall going into any detail about my sex life, and that was exactly my point. My stance is that of a man who is a dad and who happens to be gay, and finding that people are more interested in my sexuality, than my talents as a father. This is born of ignorance and that was my point.
My thoughts were about encouraging open honest communication with our children, In order to do this we sometimes have to face our own demons and grow as an individual; easier said than done I know.
I don’t have an axe to grind fella. I am most defiantly more together and happier than the majority of people I meet. Two vital components in being a successful parent.
Life experience varies little from person to person. The journey may have a different view, but we all feel the same in our hearts and heads. It is only ever a matter of degree.
I'll keep my postings "reasonably" palatable!
My final word on the subject (I promise and then I'll get off my soap box) is that Em, my daughter has the final say and we have a fantastic relationship that other "straight" dads who have had to dad remotely, would look on and envy, given the same set of circumstances. I have a lot to offer anyone open enough to hear me based on being a dad of 20 years.
Be happy mate!
Paul