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Five things girls would like to see in their fathers
Submitted by community on Thu, 03/07/2008 - 11:20pm
A father carves the way for their daughter’s lives, and when a father strengthens and rebuilds his bond with his daughter, it shapes her life and his for the better. But how ever much a father loves his daughter if he doesn’t realize what a girl child usually expects of him, his relationship would be strained. Girls seek for a sense of protection and safety from their fathers. They feel that fathers should be available when needed. The real value of a father in a girl’s life is that it is from fathers that girls learn about males in the world; how they think, act and speak. Thus girls would like their fathers to be gentle, respectful and allow them to be assertive towards them. And fathers should realize that they are creating an image in their daughters mind about how a boy / husband will act, thus set a good example for her future relationships. A girl would like to see patience in their fathers. A father who is patient would be a good listener, not assuming half way through, understand what she is going through, and be there more as a friend than a parent. A daughter would like her father to get involved in activities with her. To spend quality time with her in activities she enjoys like out door games, volunteering work, school work and household chores. A girl looks up to her father for guidance and encouragement in her activities, and what better way to show your support, than through involvement in the same. Girls would like to be respected and loved by their fathers. Though fathers love their daughters they very rarely show it, while in reality girls miss the unconditional love from their fathers, unlike their mothers' love, which is very open and tangible. Girls like to see their fathers speak in words of hope, with a vision for their future. They love to hear positive remarks from their fathers, which in turn could determine their destiny. In Short what girls would like to see in their fathers can be summarized as; * Strength – Protection (Physically and mentally) These are just s few of many qualities expected from fathers by their daughters, to have a rich relationship, which will result in a fruitful future to both. Bizymoms.com has been helping moms work from home for over 10 years. Visit today to enjoy free resources including live chats, interactive message boards and informative articles. For more great articles like this one, visit the Bizymoms.com Mom Life Section. |
Have you realized the most important thing in a young girl’s life? It is her FATHER!
Remember you are the adult
Remember you are the adult and she is the child, and temper tantrums happen at any age. I suspect that your daughter is trying to get your attention, for a response, whether positive or negative is still a repsonse. The criticism and embarrassing conduct is performing two functions. She is learning how to acert herself, as well as seeing if you are really going to stick with your attention of her. If you havn't been there, then that is what she expects, so she is pushing and putting the walls up, so that when you do walk away, which she surely suspects you will because of her behavior, that it will not hurt her. So, what can you do.... Don't give up! If you truly want to be a part of her life, then be there. Be there for the big events in her life as well as the small ones. If you say you are going to do something, then you better make sure you do it, or don't say you will. She needs to know she can depend on you. There is also a flip side. At some point she may step over the line with her words or actions. Be firm and reasonable with the discipline. I often ask my girls what they think is a comparable punishment for their infraction. Responding in a like matter is not acceptable. We rarely have yelled at our children. If we are mad and can't have a resonable discussion about the infraction, we send the girls to their room, and tell them straight out,"I am too mad to discuss this, I am going to go think about it and I want you to do the same." Besides making them sweat it out a little, you are able to think about how you want to present the discussion that has to take place and the ultimate punishment. Finally, if you punish for an infraction, be consistent. This is the hardest thing I find as a parent. One day I find I am very strict and the next I catch myself letting something slide because I am so exhausted and don't want to deal with it. Well, unfortuneately, raising children holds aspects of a career. Dilagents, Honesty, Discipline and Fair Play are all required for success. I hope my words help. Good Luck!
Hi - depending on your
Hi - depending on your situation (and care arrangements) you may just take it easy for a while and find something that you both enjoy doing. It can take a while to re-bond if you have been away due to circumstances.
Best wishes and I hope you'll be able to find a way to connect with your daughter!
-Stef
What could I do if my little
What could I do if my little girl seems despise me, criticize me, shame of beside me in public and refuse spend quality time with me.
I do love her severely and will die for her but under certain circumstances and work, couldn't afford to spend much time with her. My heart is broken but she is just a little 10 yr old.
Last thing I want to do is making thing worst by yelling or express my anger other than bitter smile which, sometime making her angrier.
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