Hi, I’m Tim Sisarich and I was at a wedding recently … it was beautiful … a stunning bride, rose-pettled aisle, the groom beaming as if his bride was the only person in the universe.

… and then there were the vows. They echoed the vicar …I promise to stand beside you, to stay with you … … in sickness & in health, for richer, for poorer, in the good times and the bad … I DO!

As they said their vows, I was struck by the gamble they were taking … a 50/50 chance they’d make it to their 12th wedding anniversary… a 50/50 chance that 5 years from now, that groom, would be echoing the same words to Sarah from marketing
I could almost picture him standing in the doorway, suitcase in hand… His daughter stands there clutching her mummy’s hand … what was she thinking… is she too young to understand –… she will someday… won’t she?

Of course, he never meant to hurt them… as he’s told them both many times. But they were so different now… it’ll be better for everyone.

Nobody ever gets married planning for it to end… but it happens …

And if you’re contemplating an affair or leaving your spouse, I don’t know whether the past 60 seconds will change your mind about leaving, but I really hope it does…

… ‘cos, while it may not always be right to stay together for the sake of the kids … I think its still a pretty good reason to give it a go!

Tim Sisarich, Executive Director Focus on the Family NZ as heard on Scrubcutters , Newstalk ZB

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