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How Do You Deal With Misbehavior?
Submitted by community on Thu, 22/01/2009 - 6:12pm
This isn’t a child that wants to misbehave; It’s a child that is discouraged. Give him or her encouragement, and allow them a chance to contribute in meaningful ways to the family. Let them know when they’ve behaved the way you’d like them to. And, spell out clearly what you expect from their behavior. Kids don’t want to misbehave just to bother you. They do it for a reason - to feel more important, or to get more attention for themselves. Do you want more misbehavior? Then punish him or her, and see what you get. Warmly, Mark Brandenburg Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC P.S. Sign up for a free newsletter. It is free, they will get a free copy of the popular article, "150 Things Dads can do for Their Kids", and it never hurts to become a better parent!  
  
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Do you have a child that’s misbehaving?
I understand how hard it is
I understand how hard it is for you celchoy my son is like this, no matter what I do he always slips back into bad habits and makes friends with the wrong people, all because of pot. And with talk of there soon being legal marijuana I fear so many more teenagers will fall into this trap. It’s so hard to know if I should be aggressive towards him or try to be more sensitive and sympathetic, neither seems to work for long.
Well, I also have a son who
Well, I also have a son who is 15. His father passed away of cancer 2 1/2 years ago. Him and I have gone through some major changes. I refuse to believe that he has this excuse after 2 1/2 years to behave in the manner that he has been behaving... He also likes to smoke pot... I had put him in a 60 day youth rehab and he had also attended a outpatient program for the youth with Kiaser for about 1 1/2 years. He still continues to smoke pot and part of it is because of his poor choices in friends. My son has gotten in trouble with the law for stealing to buy pot. He is basically trying his boundries (as they put it) with me... He is on probation but has been told that he may be taken off of probation in Sept of this year. He will be testing positive for pot on his last pee test and I mentioned that to his P.O. and his P.O. just said "well, it's only his first time testing positive so as long as he doesn't test positive any more, he will be taken off of probation in Sept 09." I just have to disipline my child more as he put it... The only thing I can do now is put him right back into the outpatient program cuz he is having a problem with smoking pot. It's very difficult without his dad and I just pray real hard, talk to my son constantly and hope for the best... I'm also starting to try and just spend more time with him and drive him to see family that seem to live at least an hour away... I am trying to gear him in another direction and distract him from wanting to be with those kids who want to run the streets, steal and smoke pot... I'm exausted but I am his mother and I just have to keep on pushing...
Mark, In your experience,
Mark,
In your experience, how do I deal with my missbehaving teen son, that does everything in his power to bother in school and just be trouble for everyone? He has gotten suspended from school several times this semester alone. I just recently found out he is smocking weed. How do I go about this, buying him an Xbox? He behaves poorly so I have to take actions, and punish him. Every action has a reaction and he need to learn that in the real world you can't yell at your boss for a raise, or skip work for several days and be a no-show/no-call, you work harden then ask about the possibility. My son is 15 and fully aware that when he behaves well, he gets perks and compensated. I refuse to believe or think that if he missbehaves is cause he wants attention and I need to give in and bend backwards.
I would appreciate your responce.
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