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Why Permissiveness Doesn't Work
Submitted by community on Tue, 13/05/2008 - 9:30am
Be firm with your boundaries and guidelines, but be gentle as well — it’s the formula for happy, well-adjusted kids. Do it now — they deserve it, and so do you! Warmly, Mark Brandenburg Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC P.S. Sign up for a free newsletter. It is free, they will get a free copy of the popular article, "150 Things Dads can do for Their Kids", and it never hurts to become a better parent!  
  
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In his book Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours, Dr. Kevin Leman writes: “The permissive parent essentially says, ‘Oh, do your own thing. Whatever you want is OK.’ My years of counseling parents and children have shown me that in a permissive environment, kids rebel. They rebel because they feel anger and hatred toward their parents for a lack of guidelines and limit setting. In one study involving elementary grades, the children were allowed to eat anything they wanted in the cafeteria over a period of thirty days. The study showed that although children predictably would ‘pig out on sweets’ and other junk food first, after a few weeks they tended to go back to a quite balanced diet.” A tangible lesson that children do indeed want rules and boundaries. Permissiveness is wimpyness, and your kids will end up hating you for it.
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