I was talking to one of the other directors, who are a recent new first time father, and telling him why at the end of the 9 months we only slightly know more then we did back when we first became pregnant.

So does that mean we have No idea at all, will we have to listen to the thousands of random advice that we were given about how to do this and that. And how to raise the child?

I guess this is more support for fathers as to why we have set this website up.

But for fathers out there, who feel slightly bombarded with all the information, and not sure where to start, our website should give them some indication of how/where to obtain information. I said flippantly that I am sure more men research their next car purchase and have all the relevant information available at their fingertips then what’s going to happen once their baby is born!! (FYI – myself included)

So that gets me to my next thoughts – how do guys learn – how do they take in all this information to process and then spit out alike a dot matrix printer the mid 80’s hmmm well for people like me slowly. I also need to look at the other side of the argument as a father – learning on the job is completely different to learning through books or websites, Books literally put me to sleep they don’t aid me learning and I shy away from them as much as possible! I like watching people and asking questions then doing for myself – it’s the element of our name DIY.

Now my thought processes are completely different to my wife’s that being all I want to make sure is that my baby is going to sleep, when is she going to need feeding? What time and what to feed?

Now becoming a new father is by no means an easy feat, I don’t think letting your partner raise the child/or letting them “get on with it” is really what leaving a new age father means – especially knowing that so many fathers are opting to stay at home and have a larger involvement in their children’s life’s.

Fathers are expected to know as much as much as the mothers, but the question is are we wired the same? – from my personal experience I would say NO. Apart from 1 other couple that I know the mother by a country mile knows a lot more and seems more detailed about the whole process whilst the father is more black and white about it.

I personally believe that more emphasis needs to be spent with the fathers –educating and giving them the tools to be better fathers.

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