Miscarriage - what to say

I recently met with Vonney who runs a website to support mothers who miscarry. We discussed how difficult it can be – especially for guys - to find the right words when you find out someone has miscarried. Since many people are struggling with this Vonney's organisation put together a very helpful page of "do's and don'ts" when dealing with miscarriage. Here's the list of what to say and what not to say:

Seven helpful things to say

• "I'm so sorry about your Miscarriage." These simple words mean a lot, especially if you allow the Mum or Dad to talk further, or not to talk, as they wish.

• "I know how much you wanted that baby." Here you are simply acknowledging that something precious has been lost, and opening a door to talk more.

• "It's okay to cry." - this can sound like Hollywood but it's reassuring for the Mum or Dad to know they are not being judged for their tears and sadness.