I came across this article which is a reality for a lot of fathers, who have children but cant have access to them. When we first started DIYfather.com it was thought that it was a site for disgruntled fathers of which we know it isn’t, but unfortunately there are a lot of fathers out there who want to but cant see their children.

What we need to take from this from a fathers point of view, is don’t give up if you think you are on the other side of the law, make sure your kids know that you are there for them, even when you cant be there.

Remember it doesn’t just happen to your run of the mill fathers but also to celebrity dads just like it did for Sir Bob Geldof, if fathers are so desperate then why aren’t they being heard. If he can do something about poverty then why cant he do something about absent fathers. ... read more >>

Colleen has sent the following question to DIYFather.com:

My husband and I have been trying to gain custody of his special needs son and we have run out of money and do not have the credit to loan ... Is there any programs/agencies that will help?

Colleen, Grabill, IN

Let me start by saying I am not a father, I am a parent. I separated from the father of my 2 children approx. 4 years ago. It was a difficult decision to make as we had been together for many years, but I knew that our relationship was far from an ideal one to raise children in and was way beyond repair.

I encouraged him to see the children and spend time with them as I knew that they loved him very much. It was his choice to not do so for a long time due to the hatred he felt for me. I made the mistake of forcing him to see them, but this was a waste of time as they felt his disinterest and it hurt their feelings. He needed to WANT to see them. Once I realised this, I made sure that he knew once he got his life back together the door was open for him to see them. ... read more >>

50% of all marriages fail and it is higher for the second marriage and so on, with that in mind is Separation and Divorce considered normal?

My mother left the family home when I was just 7, it was still the 70s and divorce wasn't yet that common, my friends still had an intact family. My brother and I were brought up by our father, we had no idea anymore of what was normal. All you know is that you don't see one of your parents as often as you would like.

12 years later I am separated from my first wife, with 3 babies. Is this me keeping the cycle of broken families alive? ... read more >>

My children were removed from my care when my youngest was just a baby; it was 10 months before I could see my 3 young children. For me gaining access wasn't automatic I had to earn it and push for it, I didn't get much, 1 1/2 hours every fortnight which was then reduced to once a month because it was difficult for the children's mother to keep bringing the children to the centre.

I kept asking "when can I see my children?" and "what do I need to do now?" and I kept it up, never giving up, and my reward was the same 1 1/2 hours with my children once a month for 5 years. The best 1 1/2 hours of my month, I looked forward to it every time, I thought nothing of the time in between, it was time I needed to do what ever was needed for me to do to move forward and to show I was not going to walk away from my children. ... read more >>